21 Important Dating Advice for Women

By: Michele Baird
Updated: July 19, 2021

I’ve realized dating has become more challenging for women in the last ten years, even though it’s easier to meet people.

It’s vital to know what to avoid, how to stay safe, and how to start dating people you’re interested in.

Keep reading to discover our important dating advice for women.

Dating Tips for Women:

We list critical dating advice for women to find potential partners, identify the best places to meet people, mention the best dating websites, and much more. 

1. Use Trustworthy Dating Websites

Millions of people are on dating websites, but not every dating website is trustworthy.

Some sites or dating apps are scams filled with bots or no real people.

On the other hand, there are reputable websites with untrusted users.

According to Pew Research, women are more likely to say dating is more challenging today because of more risks involved.

Only trust websites with a long-standing online presence, a solid verification process, and allows you to video chat. The best way to avoid spiraling into shady practices or people, sign up to a reputable website, such as eHarmony, which has all of these features.

2. Don’t Drink Too Much Alcohol

When you’re out at a bar, lounge, and having drinks with your date, make sure not to indulge too much in the alcohol. It’s important to have a safe outing and experience, especially when your date is essentially a stranger.

3. Do Not Ignore Red Flags

Did your date say or do something that may have raised some red flags? Please don’t ignore them, as it may be a sign of worse things to come.

Also, it may signal that the relationship will not work out.

4. Be Yourself

It’s the most common advice, but it’s also the most effective—be yourself!

When you’re meeting with a date or chatting with someone online, let your personality shine through.

Let them know who you are with your charm and wit, as they may find it attractive. If your date isn’t receptive to your personality, they may let you know they aren’t interested.

While it may hurt to be rejected, it’s better that your time is not wasted, and you can move on to someone who will appreciate you.

Also Read: 10 Online Dating Tips for Women Who Like Women

5. Show You’re Interested

Now’s not the time to be shy!

After you both realize there is some chemistry, consider some light flirting to show you’re interested.

The best way to move the date along and reveal if your date is a romantic partner for you—show interest as soon as you can.

6. Don’t Limit Yourself

Many women are guilty of having the perfect spouse in their head, with prominent features they look for in every person they meet.

Except, the right person for you may be someone you did not expect.

For example, if you love blonde hair and only date blonde-haired men but have had no luck, try expanding your horizon to dark-haired men.

In the end, personality and chemistry matter more than attractiveness alone.  

7. Don’t Be Pressured

If you’re having a fun time on a date and the other person suggests doing something you don’t want to do, don’t be pressured.

Politely let them know you’d rather finish the date at the bar or restaurant. Their response will also reveal their character, and if they are receptive to you, it means they’re a solid person.

However, if they begin to become annoyed, this person is not suitable for you.

8. Know Your Instant Deal-Breakers

The top deal-breaker for most people is distance, being too old, too young, or has kids from a past relationship [source #1].  

Do you avoid smokers or heavy drinkers? Look for clues on a dating profile to see their habits or if they label themselves as a non-smoker.

By identifying your deal breakers, you will save more time by going on dates with the ones you find attractive.

9. Be Responsive While Texting

One-word answers or taking too long to reply can show someone quickly you aren’t interested when you are.

We’re all busy, but let your potential partner know what times you will be available to chat and when you’re not. That way, they won’t feel too bad if you take a while to text back.

It’s usually fine not to text back within a few hours, although some people become worried or annoyed if they text in the morning and don’t receive a text until night.

Overall, try to text within a reasonable period. If you have issues with quick texting back, let them know.

10. Be Emotionally Available If Highly Interested

Think you’ve found the one? You can give them all by being emotionally available.

If they’re struggling at their job or have problems with family, be as supportive as you can.

Keep planning dates, texting them, and doing whatever you can to let them know you want a long-term commitment.

Of course, you must receive the emotional availability back, as someone emotionally unavailable will not bode well for romantic relationships.

11. Don’t Rush

Rushing a relationship creates an unstable foundation as you pursue long-term relationships.

This advice is simple: don’t rush! Let everything flow naturally, as “time shows true colors.”

12. Use Photos Of Only Yourself

A common mistake people make is uploading photos of themselves with other people on their dating profiles.

While it may seem harmless, if you are seeking men and upload a photo with men hugging you in the picture, you are less likely to receive interest.

The safest bet is to upload an up-to-date photo of yourself to avoid confusion.

13. Be Upfront With Your Intentions

Casual dating is on the rise, meaning more people are less serious about long-term relationships.

Simply put, let your intentions be known on your dating profile and in person. This allows you to connect with people who want the same relationship as you and quickly find love.

14. It’s Okay to Message Them First

Unless you’re on a dating site like bumble, where women send the first message after matching, send messages if you’re interested in someone after reading their profile.

Many women shy away from being the first messenger, missing an opportunity to meet a person who may have found you attractive.  

Sometimes, people are not on the site browsing or are inactive but need a nudge to get that notification on their phone that someone is interested in them.

15. Ask Questions

Asking questions shows more than you’re interested in, but it shows you want to learn about your potential partner.

People find asking questions endearing, as you’re curious and want to know more. Also, the more you learn, you will realize you have a lot in common or nothing at all.

Once you learn more about your potential partner, you can text or call them to say you were reminded of them, bringing you both closer together.

For instance, if you found out they enjoyed hiking, you can plan a date near the mountains and go for morning hikes on the trail.

16. Keep the Conversation Going

Dating means lots of conversations with rough patches. Keep texting, talking on the phone, or chatting in-person to keep the flow.  

However, don’t force it, as sometimes the sparks stop flying!

17. Have a Friendly Dating Profile

Many people are intimidated to make the first move.

To increase your chances of someone matching with you, have a light-hearted biography and answer questions to let others get to know you.

Humor is a plus, so let your wit shine!

18. Don’t Waste Your Time

While dating has become more challenging in recent years, it is crucial to guard your time.

Because of online dating, you can meet more people faster than picking people out at a bar. At your hands, you have hundreds, if not thousands, of people to match within your area.

However, quality or quantity also applies to dating. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, seek others who want a serious relationship too.

19. Don’t Talk About Your Ex

Talking about your ex is the fastest way to turn someone off, especially if they started to show interest in you.

Even if it’s casually, mentioning your ex shows you may still have feelings for that person or a strong attachment you aren’t ready to let go.

Unless your date asks about exes, it’s best not to talk about them!

20. Follow Your Instincts

About 60% of women between the ages of 18 to 34 who used dating websites to meet people said someone harassed them after they said they were not interested [source #2].

If someone you are not interested in is persistent and acting strange, block or report them on the dating app.

Getting out of situations during a date is more tricky. However, to prevent any problems and to keep safe, always have dates in public places.

Use apps that alert your friends and family if you do not feel safe.

21. Have fun!

Dating can be stressful, but it should also be fun.

Many women forget to have fun and concentrate too much on the final outcome.

Enjoying the moment and learning through your experiences make you wiser as you continue to date, and remembering to enjoy the little things helps prevent burnout!

Final Thoughts

Dating advice for women has changed over time with online dating and more ways to meet people.

However, dating tips for women don’t have to be boring, as our list will help you find the right person for you.

Start applying our advice today!