Dating is hard. Dating as a Christian, it would seem, is even harder. It’s tough to meet single people who are faithful Christians. Even if you are a regular churchgoer, it’s easy to wonder: where is everyone?
If you are in this position – whether you’re newly single or have been for years – you’re not alone. Believe it or not, there are lots of Christian singles who are longing for connection and community.
The Christian dating world can be challenging, but don’t give up hope! Dating is a great opportunity to meet people who have the same beliefs and viewpoints as you. Once you find your group of Christian singles, you won’t just have a date – you’ll have a community.
In this article, I will share some of the most successful tips for meeting other Christian singles. We’ll talk about the pros and cons of online dating, how to meet people in real life, and how to successfully introduce yourself to a church group.
How to Meet Christian Singles
If you are Christian and single, the odds are pretty good that you want to meet other Christian singles. Faith is essential, and one of the most significant aspects of a potential future spouse is ensuring that you’ll be compatible in this way.
While it’s vital to trust God with your future, dating or otherwise, it’s also important to take steps towards what you desire! There are ways to meet more Christian singles while still trusting God to provide.
Online Dating
Especially since the pandemic, everything seems to have migrated to an online format. Bible studies, young adult groups, and even church meetings are still held online.
While that has been hard for many, it’s also opened up opportunities to meet Christians who live far away. One of the easiest ways to meet Christian singles is through online dating.
No, I’m not talking about Tinder or Bumble. However, I’m also not talking about Christian dating apps or websites. If you’re going to date online, you have to do it right.
If your online dating experience has been anything like mine, you’ve experienced some noncommittal, barely Christian, or frankly strange people.
The free or local dating apps might work well sometimes, but they also can produce negative experiences.
Online dating can be a hassle or a pain. It’s tough to talk to someone online for weeks, only to be ghosted or to meet them in person, only to realize they’re not as great as you thought they were. However, you can take away some of the stress by choosing the right website.
If you are planning on online dating, I recommend that you go straight for the most tried and true website: eHarmony. They’re not specifically a Christian site, but they have the highest success rate because of their rigorous personality and interest forms.
With eHarmony, you’ll only be matched with someone who will agree with you in the most critical areas. You can prioritize your specific denomination on your profile, and the website won’t send you matches outside of your faith.
Many Christian couples found their spouses online! While it’s not for everyone, it’s a great way to meet people in an increasingly online world. Online dating can work for you if you know how to make the most of it.
Go to Church Events
Many churches offer events specifically for singles or young adults. Attend these--it’s one of the best ways to meet people in your area. Church events are usually listed on the church’s website.
You can choose to go to larger events, such as praise and worship or fellowship nights, or smaller groups. Bible studies are great ways to meet a few people and become closer with them. Many churches also offer online meet and greets or studies for newcomers.
When you’re at church events, you should introduce yourself to people. Although this can be hard if you are shy or have social anxiety, you can find one person to go with you and meet new people with them.
Attend Different Churches
Don’t be afraid to visit other churches if you’ve met everyone there is to meet at your church and still haven’t found anyone you click with.
It’s okay to go to a different church than the one you usually do, especially if it’s a small one.
In addition to visiting other churches on Sunday, you can attend their church events. Other Christians will be sure to accept and extend their hospitality to others, no matter their denomination.
Join Facebook Groups
If you’re not currently going to church or don’t have a church home, you can turn to the internet for the community. Most cities have Facebook groups or Instagram pages dedicated to newcomers or single people in the area.
Although not all of these groups will be faith-based, you can still join them and decide whether or not they fit your needs. Meeting singles in the area will naturally introduce you to more singles, so don’t write a group or event off just because it’s not specifically Christian!
If you can’t find a group for your area, start one! You’d be surprised how many people with similar interests live near you. It doesn’t have to be a local group either – you can join or create Facebook groups for any interest and subgroup.
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Volunteer
To find like-minded singles, you have to find like-minded people. If you decide to join a local volunteer group or go on a mission trip, you’re more likely to find people who have the same belief system as you do.
You shouldn’t volunteer just to find someone--that will leave you bitter and sad. However, you can remember that everyone you meet is a child of God and treat them how you would want to be treated.
God will bring you to the people you’re supposed to meet.
Of course, not everyone has the time, energy, or resources to be able to volunteer for long-term mission work. You can offer to help with Sunday school classes, food drives, and other church events.
Make Friends
Make friends! As if it’s that easy, right? Unfortunately, it’s getting harder and harder to meet people online or in real life who share your beliefs.
However, if you have very high and specific expectations of who you’re going to date, it can make things even harder.
Making friends isn’t just about finding a potential partner. If you focus on doing all of the tips I’ve given but ignore anyone you meet that you’re not interested in, you could be missing out on some deep and enriching friendships.
Going to church and volunteering to find a spouse will only leave you drained.
Instead, do these things because of your relationship with God. The friends you make along the way might or might not introduce you to the love of your life, but either way, they will bless you.
Form a Community
A meaningful way to make friends and meet singles near you is to form a community. Using the people you’ve met in everyday life and at church, start your events.
Join a Bible study, volunteer, make friends online, get involved in church life, and build a community around yourself.
Community is the most crucial part of a Church, and a healthy community attracts other people to join. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a small group or a huge party – every time you invite someone new, it will grow.
If you continue to make new friends and invite people into your circle, you’ll expand your community. As you get to know the people you’ve reached out to, you might be surprised at the number of Christian singles who were waiting for you to come along and invite them.
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Focus on Yourself
Ultimately, the only way you’ll find happiness is when you focus on your relationship with yourself and with God. Whether or not God has someone perfect for you to date or marry, He does have the perfect plan for your life.
Your relationship with God is the most essential part of any relationship. It’s also the best way to be content--having a deep and satisfying relationship with the Lord won’t quell your desire for a human relationship, but it will give you a more profound sense of trust in His purpose for you.
It might seem cheesy, but it’s true! The more you focus on and improve yourself for your own sake, the more surprised you’ll be at who God puts in your life.
Remember: you are worthy of love and should be happy with who you are, no matter your relationship status.
Final Thoughts
If you’re Christian, single, and lonely, remember that you’re not alone. Everyone longs for community and relationships with others. Don’t be afraid to reach out, whether online or in person, and get involved in community life to find the other Christian singles near you.